Untamed Voices

When Quiet Keeps You Safe but Small: Letting Your Voice Come Home

Lizzi Varga Reinard Season 1 Episode 3

In Episode 3 of Untamed Voices, Lizzi unpacks the difference between loving quiet and being silenced—by family rules, cultural scripts, authority, or trauma. She shares a vulnerable story from childhood about punishment for crying, and how those moments shape the belief that speaking equals danger. With trauma-informed care, she explores why so many of us learned to stay small, how “seen and not heard” shows up in adult life, and what it takes to let your voice return safely.

You’ll hear gentle content warnings, body-based grounding, and practical ways to practice truth in safe spaces—journaling, co-regulating with a trusted person, and naming how you want to be received. This episode is a love letter to anyone who felt invisible growing up and is ready to be heard—starting with themselves.

CW: childhood abuse; mentions of cult environment (not graphic).
Takeaways: the difference between silence and silencing • how threat responses mute our voice • small steps to speak truth without abandoning safety.

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