Just For Today… I Choose Me

What if you didn’t have to figure everything out… just for today?

In this episode, I share a simple shift that changed the way I move through my day. Inspired by the Reiki principle of “just for today,” this isn’t about adding more pressure or becoming someone new—it’s about releasing it.

We talk about what happens when you stop waiting to be chosen, start offering yourself the same care you give everyone else, and allow today to be enough.

Transcript

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Hello, everybody. Welcome back to my podcast. I just want to take a moment to just say I appreciate you. I really, really do. You have no idea what a difference having a podcast has made for me. It's been really, really helpful. So yeah, so just kudos to you. Thank you for your support. And hope this has helped you in some way. And hopefully it will continue to help. If you have any topics or any ideas or thoughts or comments or anything at all that you wish to share about any of my podcasts, you are welcome to do so. You can see the information on the description area, whatever you call that, of the podcast, and just reach out to me. I would love to hear from you. Okay. Anyway, this morning I did something, it seemed like it was small or could appear to be small, but it didn't really feel small. It was super intentional in almost in a way that I don't typically give myself permission to be, or I haven't in the past. Let me put it that way. Things are changing for me, things are shifting. I'm starting to see the world in in in very different ways. It's kind of liberating, honestly. So I went to the store and I decided to buy myself some flowers. It wasn't a special occasion. Nobody told me to. And it caught me off guard a little bit because I've heard that phrase before. A long, long time ago during my not not a long, long time ago, I've had numerous Reiki trainings. But I heard, I heard this phrase. Back then it didn't really feel like this. Back then it felt like one more thing, one more thing I was supposed to do, one more thing to get it right. If you've ever done Reiki or training or anything like that, or even heard about it, you know, you might have heard the principles that are just for today, do not worry. Just for today, do not anger. Just for today, be grateful. Just for today, do your work honestly. Just for today, be kind to every living thing. And they're beautiful words, and I appreciate it, you know. I just, the way I would see it before was, oh, it's just one more thing on my to-do list, right? So the words are beautiful. At the time it felt a little bit overwhelming because I was learning something new, and it was like there were many things in in place that I had to do. And this was one of the things was to say this, right? Before I started a Reiki session. So it felt like I had to be all of that on top of everything else that I was really already carrying and doing. And I I didn't fully understand the point of it because I thought, well, I already have the intentions, you know, I already have the good intentions. Until recently, something just kind of made itself pretty clear to me. I started living the phrase in my own way, I guess. And just for today, for example, I'm going to allow myself to be content where I am. Just for today, going to recognize that I am providing for my kids. And just so you know, like I hadn't thought about this phrase in a while, and it just popped in my head. And it was like, just for today, just for today, just for today. And it and every time I would say it, it was like just like some weight was lifted off of my shoulders. I just felt relieved, you know. So I started adding these phrases to it. Just for today, I'm going to let myself rest. Just for today, I'm going to do something kind for myself. Just for today, I'm going to acknowledge the people I've helped. And I just felt such relief of pressure because I wasn't saying I will always do this. I promise myself that I will do this every single day. I wasn't saying that this is like a global picture of what I will do forever and ever and ever again, right? Which sounds like a lot, right? It wasn't this is who I have to be from now on. It wasn't fix everything. It was just today, just for today. That phrase actually matters a lot more than we give it credit for. Just for today feels so much lighter than in five years, right? Or for the next five years, I will. And I love thinking about others and making their day even a tiny bit brighter. You know, I genuinely care about that. Like this morning, I I waved at a police officer that I recognized, and my daughter said, I think you made his day. And I was like, What? And she said, Yeah, he smiled. I think you made his day. And you know, maybe I did, maybe I didn't. I don't know. You know, maybe I had an impact. I I know that when people wave to me and smile, it does, in a way, make my day. It makes me feel important, it makes me feel cared for, you know. But this really mattered. Like the way that she saw it really mattered. And I love that she came up with that, you know. It tells me a lot about the way that she views the world as well. And what she was seeing and what she was naming was that the little things do matter, which fills my heart for her. I'm so proud of her, right? But it also fills my heart for me, you know. Being acknowledged actually matters. Feeling seen even for a second matters, right? When somebody can take a minute out of their day just to look up and say hi, you know. And then I had this moment where I thought, if I naturally offer that to people, why wouldn't I offer that to myself? Like, not because it's like something that I have to do, not a to-do list thing, but really intentionally. Like, I see you. So and I thought, you know, that that would feel really good, actually, right? So I made a decision. Just for today, I'm going to treat myself the way I treat other people. I also noticed something else. There are moments where we wait. We wait for someone to notice us, to think of us, to do something kind for us, right? So when it comes down to like flowers, for example, I love flowers. I don't get them often enough, you know. Maybe on Mother's Day, and typically I ask for it, you know. I ask for my flowers for the front of my house, you know, because I love sitting on the front porch and just looking at the flowers or smelling them. I just love flowers. I love flowers, you know, they're just gorgeous. I love plants. But, you know, with that being said, I was thinking, like, man, I haven't received flowers in such a long time. There nobody's ever, I mean, I can't say nobody. There have been people who randomly have sent me flowers, and that has been so nice, you know, in the past. But I can't think of anything recently. And I thought, man, it would be so nice if somebody just was like, here, have some flowers, right? And and then I thought, well, wait, I'm expecting others to automatically know, number one, that I love flowers, number two, that it would be nice for me to receive flowers, right? And honestly, like it still creates a sense of disappointment, which I created because I created this thought process, right? You know, I created some expectation somewhere that it would be really nice if somebody got me some flowers. I would feel appreciated, you know? And even just for like no reason at all, right? It would be nice. But that thought is kind of there. And maybe I'm not unique in this. I don't know, but this is my brain for you, you know. And it's and it's beautiful. It's beautiful that I can recognize these things now. Whereas in the past, it would have, it might have, that thought might have even ruined my day of nobody loves me, nobody cares about me, nobody's sending me flowers just because, right? You know, that might have been a definition of, you know, oh well, or I might have interpreted it as, oh well, I am not lovable, I am not loved by anybody, which is not true. I know I'm loved by people, and I know people do things for me, you know, that are kind, that are considerate. It's just not what my mind has made up to be this nice thing, right? That would this would definitely solidify that they care, right? I don't know. I it, you know, our brains make stuff up all the time and they create narratives all the time and they forget about the the other things that are also important, right? But people don't always know what you're needing, you know, especially if you don't name it, you don't voice it. They don't know what would make you feel special in that moment. And sometimes they're really caught up in their own world. A lot of times, you know, life is hard. Our lives are hard. So instead of sitting in that and pouting about it, right, and making it mean something about me because it doesn't, I asked myself, well, what would I do for someone else right now? If I knew that they had a rough year, you know, if I knew that they were feeling maybe a little isolated, maybe they were feeling a little bit left out, or maybe not left out. I don't know. That's not what I was feeling necessarily, but maybe just a little bit wanting to feel special for a moment, right? If I knew that about somebody, then I I would just go and get them something that I knew would make them feel special, right? So I did it for me. So after I dropped my daughter off, I went to the store and I looked at the flowers and I let myself actually feel what I wanted. I didn't minimize it, I didn't brush it off, I didn't say it's not a big deal. I love flowers and I let myself love flowers. Instead of waiting, I really chose the flowers that I liked, the ones that were calling my name, and I did what I would do for someone I care about. I paid attention, I let myself be drawn to something. I found these small, beautiful, delicate flowers. They were tiny, they were simple, but they were beautiful. And I thought, yeah, that's it. You know, that feels like me. And then I found something else. A small piece from my wall that said, Love has a way of making your day. And I had this moment where I realized that's exactly what happened. Love made my day. Not because someone else gave it to me, because I chose it. That doesn't mean that it's less meaningful. It makes it even more meaningful because I stopped and chose myself. Because I know the intention behind it, I know the thought that went into it, I know the care, and I felt it. I felt appreciated, I felt seen, I felt special. That really, really matters. You matter in that way too. Not just in the big picture, not just what you're working toward, but in the small, quiet, every single day moments of your life. This is where just for today it feels like it's a big deal. It really brings you out of that pressure, or at least me. It brings me out of that pressure. Out of the expectations, out of the constant need to figure every single thing out. And it really brings you back into something real. Because today is where your life actually is happening. It's not the someday, it's not the when everything is aligned feeling, it's not when everything makes sense, it's today. So maybe just for today, let yourself be enough. Just for today, you recognize what you've already done. Just for today, you stop waiting to be chosen and you choose yourself. Not forever, you don't have to commit to forever. You may not be able to do this forever, right? But just for today. And if you do that, today will shift. And when today shifts, then guess what? So does tomorrow and the next day, and the next day. And this is not because you forced it, this is because you lived it one day at a time. So eventually it's going to have an effect on your future anyway. But it's just today, just for today. So hopefully those magic words can help you a little bit in your day, in your journey as well, just for today, and help you slow down a little bit and allow yourself to do the things that you feel you are called to do today. You know, the things that you want to do, the things that make you feel important, right? So you don't really have to carry your whole life today. Just carry yourself through this moment, and maybe that will be enough. Right? All right, everybody. Thank you so much for listening. I really, really appreciate you and have a beautiful, wonderful day. I will talk to you next week. Bye.